Do you and your partner agree on how to raise your children? If not, you may think you are experiencing a marriage problem because you can’t get together on this important issue. This can feel like a pretty hopeless situation. Often times your children have learned how to pit you against one another. By the time they get into their teens, those kids will be able to do what they please, because they will have learned how to manage you instead of you managing them.
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Honoring Parents
Thursday, May 6th, 2010Helping Kids Live Within Limits
Monday, April 12th, 2010I want to remind you that raising children is a twenty year process. Twenty years. So those of you with preschool children need to remember that you have a ways to go! So relax, take it easy, there isn’t any one day that makes a whole lot of difference, not in the perspective of twenty years.
In Isaiah 53:6 we read, “All we like sheep have gone astray.” One could think of this verse as the theme for family life. If parents go ”astray”, the children will usually follow. It’s important to recognize the responsibility you have in raising your children.
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Expect Respect from Your Children
Friday, April 9th, 2010The foundation upon which you’re going to build an effective family life is this: You expect your children to honor you. Now how does that happen? That happens when you and your partner sit down and develop guidelines, limits, and rules that both of you are prepared to carry out, and in your considered judgment, are in the best interests of your children.
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Enforcing Boundaries with Children
Tuesday, April 6th, 2010How seriously do you take your responsibilities as a parent? Do you believe in setting limits and boundaries? Many people these days are saying, “Don’t pressure your child. If they don’t want to do it, don’t force them.”
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Setting Reasonable Limits for Kids
Saturday, April 3rd, 2010“But Mommy, I don’t want to.” Or maybe, it’s “No, Daddy, I won’t.” Sound familiar? These responses are the “cries of resistance” to major principles parents need to set down concerning their families. These principles are called limits.
When you think about living and working together as a family, setting limits is vital. Children need limits – limits that are fair, reasonable, and as few as possible. The limits of your family need to be clearly communicated and enforced.