Helping Kids Live Within Limits

April 12th, 2010

I want to remind you that raising children is a twenty year process. Twenty years. So those of you with preschool children need to remember that you have a ways to go! So relax, take it easy, there isn’t any one day that makes a whole lot of difference, not in the perspective of twenty years.

In Isaiah 53:6 we read, “All we like sheep have gone astray.” One could think of this verse as the theme for family life. If parents go ”astray”, the children will usually follow. It’s important to recognize the responsibility you have in raising your children.
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Expect Respect from Your Children

April 9th, 2010

The foundation upon which you’re going to build an effective family life is this: You expect your children to honor you. Now how does that happen? That happens when you and your partner sit down and develop guidelines, limits, and rules that both of you are prepared to carry out, and in your considered judgment, are in the best interests of your children.
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Enforcing Boundaries with Children

April 6th, 2010

How seriously do you take your responsibilities as a parent? Do you believe in setting limits and boundaries? Many people these days are saying, “Don’t pressure your child. If they don’t want to do it, don’t force them.”
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Setting Reasonable Limits for Kids

April 3rd, 2010

“But Mommy, I don’t want to.” Or maybe, it’s “No, Daddy, I won’t.” Sound familiar? These responses are the “cries of resistance” to major principles parents need to set down concerning their families. These principles are called limits.

When you think about living and working together as a family, setting limits is vital. Children need limits – limits that are fair, reasonable, and as few as possible. The limits of your family need to be clearly communicated and enforced.

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Marriage Boundaries

April 1st, 2010

Being married is hard work! When you got married you probably said something that resembled the traditional marriage vows:  “I will love you, and comfort you, and keep you in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, keep unto you as long as we both shall live. And I take you for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health; to love and cherish you until death do us part.” But, did you really realize what you were getting into?
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